How to build a power exchange relationship

In a power exchange relationship, the domme makes the rules. She is in control and one of her main tasks is to establish a healthy power exchange relationship with her submissive.

But let’s start from the beginning.

In order to have a healthy relationship, you need to spice it up and keep it alive. There are no strict rules to do that, as long as you do something. It is well known that routine and boredom kill couples.

In one of my previous posts, I wrote about 10 good reasons to become a BDSM couple. You can take a cue from there and get some ideas about how to transform and improve your relationship.

If you are already in a Female Led Relationship, you are probably already straight and narrow.

Power exchange relationship – the couple

One of the most powerful points here is the power-exchange within the couple. One of the two partners, the man, totally gives his power to the woman. She has the dominant role, therefore she is in charge of both and has all the power.

Don’t resist. Just trust and surrender yourself completely to her. She knows what she is doing. You can read more about trust in my post about it.

Completely giving up control and power to her may include, but it’s not confined to, your finance, desires, basic needs, sexual needs, your body appearance but also life’s objectives, time, sleep and so on.

In a real authentic FLR, the man 100% surrenders and gives up completely everything to her beloved superior female. Only in that case, he will have ceased to be a man becoming her sub.

The 4 levels of power exchange

Power exchange relationship has different intensities of power exchange depending on the relationship that you currently have with your domme. Emotions and feelings determine the levels’ system.

1. limited: it is the initial phase of power exchange in a “normal” relationship, where both partners act a bit their parts, and where randomly one or the other play the role of dominant.
2. restricted: this is the next level, happening in a couple that has a deeper relationship. Domination appears from time to time, more often than for level 1.
3. submission: this is the beginning of a female led relationship, where the submissive man starts to give all the control and the power to the woman. This level gets more serious and heads to a long-term FLR. It is for couples who already live a relationship of domme and sub and who are emotionally involved in this lifestyle.
4. ownership: here the domme has complete control over his sub, and the power is totally in her hands. The sub agrees to surrender to her domme, trust her and accept to be owned by another person.

Of course, these levels are not fixed, you can adapt them a bit according to your own criteria.

They are set to give a ranking to the different levels of a female led relationship. The important thing is that power exchange levels are discussed within the couple. Both in the initial phase of the relationship and at a deeper level. Communication is the basis to have a pleasant and effective FLR.

From a domme point of view

In the beginning, being always in control is not easy either. It is an enormous responsibility to be in charge of someone else and to have complete power in his life. Above all, if she was used to be independent. A domme needs to think forward, plan, prevent future problems, solve arising problems, decide everything for the couple at home and outside. She has to be multi-tasking and very well organized. She knows that her submissive trusts her and all her actions, so if anything goes wrong it is only and uniquely her responsibility.

On the other hand, she can delegate some boring and repetitive tasks to her sub. He will obey and do it.

Another domme task is to train her partner in order to transform him into a perfect sub. Discipline is of top importance in a female led relationship. This training process takes time. The domme needs to be rigorous and determinate, strict and severe. If the sub makes a mistake, she has to punish him. If he does a good job, she has to reward him. She can even decide how her sub can please her from a sexual point of view. And she will control his sexuality, his orgasms, his erections, his passion, and arousal.

And all of that is just because she has all the power in the couple.