Female Led Relationship rules need to be established in a couple, and this is a hard and tedious job by itself.
Why should a relationship have rules in the first place?

Of course, we are not talking about normal relationships. Still, Female Led Relationships (FLR) are not incredibly different from normal ones. In fact, also on so-called “vanilla” couples, you always have one of the two a bit more dominant than the other, on some life’s spheres or on all of them. Unfortunately, this is often the other way around: the woman being a bit more sub because crushed by her male that has a more despotic and dominant personality.

Only in recent years female led relationships emerged and started to gain incredible momentum. I assisted to that especially after the film “50 shades of gray” was launched… a lot of males started questioning themselves if the contrary existed too.

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But what is to be in a female led relationship and what are the rules to be respected by males being in it?

Of course, there is no one solution fits all. Every female led relationship rules are different from couple to couple. So, they need to be set by the couple itself. Communication is crucial in this process and both parties need to openly agree upon terms, desires, needs, goals.

Moreover, a female led relationship is often the ULTIMATE step for a couple that is experiencing Femdom for a few time. Session after session, both parties will realize that they need to move on to something more stable, strict and frequent or constant.
It doesn’t need to be something more aggressive or deep if they don’t want, but surely something where control and power exchange are always there between the couple.

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This being said, it can be difficult to find a woman willing to embrace this lifestyle and swim against the tide. Probably also because of this, many (really many) men are attracted by such women. It’s probably a “scarcity” effect that is playing a role, together with the fun, mystery, and anxiety of doing something that goes a bit against society and trends.

The following female led relationship rules have been written by myself after long talks with my submissive, with whom I currently live an FLR. The purpose of that is to train, teach, alert, inform other males (and females) of what it takes to be in a female led relationship with a naturally dominant woman.

If you are curious about how it all started, you can read this post about how my female led relationship started.

Let’s start.


Female led relationship rules


1) Believe in female supremacy

Fundamentally you need to feel and be convinced that females are far superior to males, and you need to deeply desire their attention, consideration, satisfaction, and happiness. Above all, the one of your Domme. To put it differently, you need to cease existing as an individual and start existing as a sub which is there for her needs, desires, and pleasure.

You can read more about this topic on my post “Female supremacy in an FLR”.

This being said, if you understood that you need/want a female to dominate your life, you found your Domme and started a female led relationship, then you are ready for the second rule.


2) She comes first. Before anything else.

This is a serious and very important point, yet a misunderstood one by many subs. In an FLR you need to understand that there is no part-time submission. You are in for 100% of the time, like it or not.

If you enter a Female Led Relationship, you know that it’s all about your love for your domme. She comes before every one of your needs, impulses, and desires, you have to satisfy her desires and obey her orders. As simple as that. It sounds difficult and straightforward, but this is what is all about.

A deeper analysis of this rule can be found in this other post.


3) Completely trust her

Any relationship is founded on trust between individuals, and this can be difficult to build or to enforce. In FLR, the sub has to unconditionally trust his domme, and he doesn’t have to hesitate about the decisions she takes for both.

A good domme knows very well what she is doing, and is aware of all the potential consequences that every action may involve. For this reason, she acts respectfully and the sub doesn’t have to doubt about her actions.

If you want to know more about trust in FLR, read more here.


4) Self-control

Self-control is one of the hardest but most important characteristics that a good sub needs to have. Human being impulses are difficult to control, above all arousal related ones: when a sub is aroused (and trust me, it’s very likely and easy that he would be), he needs to discipline himself and control erections, the impulse to lick, kiss, touch or even in terms of gaze.

The domme has to duly train the sub and explain to him the importance of this point. When he succeeds, he will not be a novice anymore. He will be promoted to the next level.

Are you interested in knowing how to develop self-control? Find some tips in this post.


5) Determination. Resistance. Endurance.

Being a sub in an FLR is no easy task. You need to be ready to satisfy every request coming from your domme. This is not always peaches and cream, it can be challenging above all when it involves mental processes, pain or boredom.

As in everything, there are advantages and disadvantages (read more about that in my post). But keep in mind that if your domme is happy and pleased, you will be pleased too. So, be strong, determined and endure in your wonderful female led relationship.


6) Completely give up power and control to her

As mentioned, there is no such thing as a part-time FLR.
In an FLR, she makes the rules, she controls you and she is the one who administers power over you. Don’t resist. Just trust and surrender yourself completely to her.

Completely giving up control and power to her may include, but it’s not confined to, your finance, desires, basic needs, sexual needs, your body appearance but also life’s objectives, time, sleep.

In a real authentic FLR, the man 100% surrender and gives up completely everything to her beloved superior female. Only in that case, he will have ceased to be a man becoming her sub.

You will find a deeper analysis of power exchange in this post.


7) Is this right or wrong?

Don’t ask yourself if FLR is right or wrong. Just think about your feelings when you are immersed in it. Are you happy and gratified? Or, are you afraid of what will happen next? Do you feel bored with your daily tasks?

Asking yourself those questions will help you to find your place in this practice.

There is no right or wrong in an FLR itself. Read some pieces of advice in the related post.


8) Anticipate your Domme

The secret is a good and targeted training! If you train well your sub, he will be able to understand your moves and to predict your next actions. This will take away some heavy repeating of orders from you.

Being in charge of another human being 100% of the time as in an FLR is a tedious and very demanding job.
It’s not as easy as you could think. Read more about this topic in this post.



To conclude, be in a female led relationship it’s all about love, a different kind of love.
The sub needs to love her Domme more than himself. He needs to embrace her life, care and respect her so much to walk over his needs, desires and wants.

To point out, he doesn’t need to cease to exist as a human being as it is the case for a slave. Nevertheless, he certainly needs to cease and give up much of what defines him as a man (namely, sexual desire, arousal, pride, male attitude).

Those are the rules and what it takes to be in an authentic female led relationship with a truly dominant woman.