10 genuine femdom characteristics a Mistress should have [updated]

I started to search on the web using keywords related to “femdom characteristics” like female domination, humiliation, fetish, take control, power exchange, submit, sexual practice, BDSM, and similar.

In the research, I specified that all this was happening within a couple, and I found out that this was called “Female Led Relationship” (FLR). This kind of relationship sees the woman dominating her man, taking control of him, and leading the relationship in every area. Usually, it becomes an everyday lifestyle 24/7.

My femdom characteristics come out in each and every video I shoot. Seeing is believing!

What is FLR?

Imagine a successful businessman with a great career who always reaches his objectives and targets at work. This kind of personality always has everything under control, takes decisions and leads any project despite pressure, difficulties, etc.

1. Women controlling men
2. Empowering women

In the first group, we find men who desire to be controlled by women, who want to be corrected, to take care of the household, a bit masochist. The second group is about women’s empowerment. It includes making a female feel more, and not making a male feel less. The man’s objective is to please his woman.

There are 4 levels of FLR:

• Low-level FLR: female lead is low, it is more about consent and agreed decisions. A woman likes to dominate but also to be in sync with her partner.
• Moderate level FLR: a female is leading only in a few spheres of the couple’s life. She likes male’s attention without feeling guilty but doesn’t like to punish him if necessary. It is more about role-plays than a real FLR relationship. The couple experience some light BDSM activities.
• Formal level FLR: very similar to a mother-son relationship. A woman likes to take control of her man’s life, and manage all its areas. Also, sexual life is a bit more perverse.
• Extreme level FLR: very intense relationship where women seriously treat their men as submissive. It also involves deeper sexual games and BDSM practices.

 

How to become a real Mistress with genuine femdom characteristics

Sometimes you have it inside, sometimes you can transform yourself into a dominant person. This “role” is erotic and powerful. Femdom characteristics are clear and you should have at least a few of them. Femdoms own the authority, submissives are often masochist and have fantasies about sex. 

It is important that you and your partner both feel “comfortable” in your roles. As a femdom, you must be consistent in your role and have complete control over the situation of your submissive man.

This is a 24/7 relationship where all female’s needs, pleasures, desires, and requirements are satisfied.

I would like to underline again that it is not about violence or pain: domination can be also sweet and pleasant. This great mix will spice up your relationship, I can guarantee it.

10 femdom characteristics that you should have

Here below you will find a list of the 10 femdom characteristic that you, as a Mistress, should have:

1- Attentive to details

Attentiveness to details cultivates precision, enhances problem-solving, and fuels a positive, thorough approach, fostering excellence in various endeavors.

One of the main femdom characteristics that a femdom needs, is to be aware and to notice everything happening around her. When planning, she takes care of all the details so that she has control over the scene. In this way, she ensures the success of her actions. A femdom is organized and efficient.

When I prepare my sessions, I plan each step I need to do: I prepare tools and the setting well in advance and, afterward, I can totally enjoy the moment and savor a deep pleasure. On the other side, a slave will feel safer and more secure if he notices that the mistress has everything under control. He can totally abandon himself to her power. If you would like to have more information about how to prepare a wonderful session, you can read my other post.

2- Naturally dominant (femdom)

Being naturally dominant can inspire confident leadership, effective decision-making, and the ability to guide a submissive, promoting a positive and assertive presence.

As previously mentioned, some people are naturally more dominant than others. But domination is something that you can learn without problems. There are plenty of manuals and courses for that. A dominant person is direct, determined and usually a leader. Self-confidence and decision-making are two of the most important femdom characteristics.

3- In control

Being in control cultivates a sense of empowerment, fostering order and efficiency. It instills confidence, enabling strategic decision-making and resilience.

A real dominant woman knows how to take control of her man, and knows how to keep him in her hands. After establishing a hierarchy, from top to bottom, the femdom has the power to take any decision within the couple.

When you are dominant, you are always aware of what is happening, you are calm, rational and you have your emotions under control. 

I love to make decisions, but I love even more to see my slave obeying me. This is very satisfactory for both partners. Try it if you don’t believe it.

4-  Multi-tasking

Another of the femdom characteristics which is well-known is that women can handle several tasks at the same time, bringing all of them successfully to an end. This is a very important quality for a femdom as she needs to think about herself and her sub, take care and solve daily problems, decide for both and get pleasure when desired. Efficiency is a winning femdom characteristic.

Multi-tasking showcases adaptability and efficiency, allowing a Mistress to juggle diverse tasks seamlessly. It reflects resourcefulness and enhances productivity in femdom relationships.

5- No boundaries

To really and deeply live a FLR relationship, both Mistress and sub don’t need to have mental and physical boundaries. Imagine how erotic it is when you are open to any new experience or sexual play. 

This is a “free” discipline, which means that there are no universal rules. The only rules are the ones established by the mistress.

6- Love in a different way

As mentioned previously and in other posts, this practice is an act of love. Common beliefs say that this is a violent and unhealthy practice. On the contrary, I think this is very healthy and useful for the body and mind.

Having my sub’s respect and worship makes me love him. I know he is under my responsibility, therefore I carefully take care of him and his emotions. 

7- Smartness

This is one of the most challenging femdom characteristics, as it involves intelligence, mental games, tricks, and a basic psychological background. I remember I practiced it a lot with my sub, trying to trick his mind and obtain what I wanted in a sensual way. It works!

Smartness embodies sharp intellect, quick problem-solving, and insightful decision-making. It fosters adaptability, innovation, and a passionate approach to femdom relationships, ensuring success and continuous arousal.

8- Outside-the-box attitude

Thinking outside the box signifies creative ingenuity, an ability to innovate beyond conventional limits. It fuels novel solutions, encouraging experiences and uniqueness.

A real femdom needs to have an outside-the-box attitude, which means that she has to think different, original, unique. I love to be surprised, I like to experience the new, and I always try to propose different practices to my sub. It’s exciting for me and for him, as it is unexpected and curious. Routine kills couples, above all if in FLR. Remember!

9- Determination

At the beginning of your FLR experience, it can sometimes be difficult to be always determined and 100% into the dominant role. Being a femdom you are responsible for your sub, you should have the control even against your partner’s will. What happens when you feel that your sub is not happy about what you requested from him? Nothing, just stick to your decision and keep doing what you are doing. Each time it will be better and better until you will not feel guilty anymore.

10- Proactivity

I suggest to femdom “beginners” to be proactive and not stick to the usual behavior. There is always space to improve and to learn. I am still reading books about FLR and BDSM. This world is immense, wonderful, you will never be bored to discover and experience new activities.

 

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