Reasons why you completely trust your domme

If you accept to enter in a Female Led Relationship, you accept to completely trust your domme. As you may know, in any couple, trust is the basis for a long and stable relationship. This is of course applied to FLR, too.

First of all, what is “trust”?

As human beings, we are naturally disposed to trust others. We have this mental mechanism that activates our brain and makes us distinguish if something or someone is really trustworthy or not.

If you trust your domme, in this case, it means that you feel safe (mentally, physically and emotionally) when you are with her.

You are aware that everything she will do, will be positive for both, and you know that she will never hurt you because this is not the intention or goal of this practice. A relationship is based on mutual respect of two individuals, this means that being in control, she will lovingly take care of the sub.

Within a couple, above all in a Female Led Relationship, the trust is at the base of the relationship but will be built and strengthened step by step, day after day, session after session. A domme’s trust will significantly increase if she makes her actions match her words. The more she does it, the more you trust your domme. It is easy, I never promise or mention anything that, in the end, I will not do.

You can read more about trust in my other post about the healthy reasons to become a BDSM couple.

In some (usually BDSM) couples, the mistress prepares a contract where she explains her intentions and points out all the rules that the sub and herself have to respect. In this way, the sub is aware of what can happen in the relationship, and he knows that it cannot go further than what is mentioned in the contract. If both parties respect the contract, the level of trust will increase.

 

Completely trust your domme

Trust is at the base and fundamental for every relationship. If there is no trust there is no relationship.

Any male sub needs to completely trust her domme. Not only during a session but also during anything she does and any decision she takes for him or for the couple. A good domme knows that she has to be trustworthy. She usually has a good education, she is sensitive, respectful and she is very aware of any action, word, or sign she is doing.

The sub needs to trust that she is always right, and she is taking the right decision for both. But not only. He needs to totally abandon himself to her domme during sexual games, and during sessions. Above all when she is using some tools or she is approaching “games” that may be dangerous.

That can be sometimes difficult, right?

Yes, you are right. Trust is sometimes a hard beast. A sub can easily come to trust her Domme only when the decision she is taking is going towards the direction he would like to see. Or when the domme positively rewards his expectations and he kind of gets what he thought to get.

But trust in an FLR doesn’t work like that. It’s either a blind-trust or none.

Conclusion

A sub needs to trust the domme in any circumstances. Any. When she is telling him to clean the house, while she is enjoying her time or while he is enduring in pain for hours or even when she tells him to watch while she has sex with another person.

I like to reassure my sub so that he can totally trust me and my actions. Every time I do something, I clearly explain to him what’s going on. I prepare him for the next steps so that he doesn’t have to worry about his safety and he can concentrate on satisfying me.

It is not easy, trust can be the most difficult inner process a sub needs to cope within a FLR.