Bondage play: Tips and Tricks for Beginners

Introduction

In the BDSM acronym, the B means “bondage”. It is an important and essential part of this practice.

Before starting to talk about this topic, I would like to remind you of a few important rules to respect while practicing a bondage play.

• Be sober and do no use alcohol or drug before and during the practice
• Discuss with your submissive about your plan
• Establish a safeword that your submissive can use in case of need
• Never leave your tied submissive alone
• Keep emergency scissor or similar tools at hand so that you can quickly release your sub in case of emergency
• Make sure that your submissive can breathe properly
• don’t immobilize your submissive for too long to avoid circulation problems.

This said, let’s discover what bondage is more into detail.

 

What is the meaning of “bondage”?

As it is part of BDSM’s practice, bondage has to be consensual and according to the contract of agreement in place.

Basically, you as femdom and dominatrix, tie up your sub in order to restrain his movements. It doesn’t necessarily have to be violent or painful, it can also be soft and pleasant in a way.

It is an erotic part of BDSM practice and you can use it together with other BDSM activities.

There are several types of bondage, mainly:

• For a purpose: you have a specific purpose for tying up your submissive. One of the most common ones is to facilitate spanking him, or similar activities.
• Decorative: this type of bondage is based on aesthetic. It is used for artistic photography or during BDSM parties when you want to show your submissive duly decorated.

  

• Torture: you want to force your submissive in painful or uncomfortable positions for a certain period of time, decided by you.
• Pull together: usually used to bind wrists or ankles
• Separate: usually used to keep legs or arms apart
• Wrap: you completely mummify the body of your submissive so that he is completely wrapped, motionless, and you can stimulate him while immobilized.

Of course, there are other types of bondage but, according to my experience, they are dedicated to little niches or are too narrowed. I prefer to have a bit of freedom with this practice by combining several kinds of tying.

 

Why is it pleasant?

Mainly, bondage is pleasant because it rouses erotic phantasies within both dominant and submissive.

Who didn’t dream about being tied up during erotic activities?

There are also scientific studies reporting that.

This said and to summarize it, a bondage play is pleasant because it involves:

• role play: pretending to be raped, or similar, is one of the most common submissive’s phantasies.
• Humiliation: to deprive senses and restrain movements transforming your submissive in a helpless entity
• Torture: when you tie your submissive, it is then easier to torture him (spanking, caning, or similar).

During bondage, you will feel so in control and powerful because your sub cannot move. Your sub will be pleased and aroused by the fact that he is helpless and not able to move.

This activity implies trust and control. If you are in control and you know what you are doing, your submissive will trust you and will completely surrender.

 

Which are the main tools you need for a bondage play?

There are thousands of tools that you can use for bondage plays. Actually, anything can become a tool with a bit of creativity and experience. Remember that you are dealing with a human being, so do not forget to use this practice conscientiously.

Here below you will find a list of the most common ones used.

I suggest you to start with this safer tools before experiencing a more extravagant way to tie your sub.

Rope

The queen of bondage play is the rope. It has different length or sizes and is usually of nylon or cotton. Based on the erotic Japanese bondage art, you can tie your submissive using this technique of restraint and decoration. You can find some more information in this article.

Tape

It is called tape but it’s not sticky as normal tape. It is made of latex or plastic and it sticks only to itself and not to hair and skin. If you buy a good-quality one, you will be able to reuse it few other times. You can find some more information in this article.

Cuffs

I wrote about this tool in one of my previous posts. Mainly used for wrists and ankles, cuffs are a restraint tool very used in BDSM. I suggest combining cuffs with another tool or activity to increase the intensity of the act.

Gag, blindfold, earplugs, and mask

These are all tools used for sensory deprivation. Your sub will be completely isolated from the external world; he will feel helpless. When he wears the mask too, he will be tremendously humiliated as this is the main tool for depersonalization and disorientation.

 

Conclusion

As mentioned in a post about BDSM benefits, BDSM couples are much healthier than vanilla couples.

BDSM is a balanced practice, it is about power exchange, control, stress release, open mind, sexual exploration, deep experience, etc.

As a consequence, being bondage an important part of this practice, it is also a healthy activity for both mind and body, dominant and submissive.

Bondage play is one of my favorite practices, one of the most used but also one of the most dangerous. Keep in mind the tips given at the beginning of this post.

Try it with awareness and enjoy!