I have always been fascinated by the thousands of BDSM toys that you can use to enhance and enrich your sexual act. Reaching your pleasure is a trip, not simply being at your destination. Therefore I styled this BDSM toys list for you.

I could spend hours on specialized websites and online shops looking for BDSM toys. The web is full of options and you can really find everything you need for both domme and submissive. You can find soft and extreme tools, depending on your involvement and desire to experiment.

When I was younger it happened that I found a part-time job in a sex shop where I was selling sex toys and BDSM toys for all genres, tastes, and sexual desires. It has been a very interesting experience because I was spending a few hours per day among these curious objects and clothes.

I could touch them, feel the materials, understand the mechanisms, their scope, and usage. I learned a lot about the BDSM world from my more experienced colleagues and I had the confirmation that human beings are really in need of sex, it is a primary need for everyone. We are all different, but for all of us, the primary needs are the same (see Maslow’s hierarchy of needs).

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Initially, it was a bit awkward for me to introduce and sell sex toys and BDSM toys to all kinds of people. After few weeks I started to know much more about our merchandise, therefore, I was more self-confident and selling was becoming a challenge for me: the trick was to be very smart, creative and understand the customer’s needs and phantasies. The winning strategy was to catch customers’ attention by involving stories about the object and to go deep into detail about the pleasure these tools could give them.

During this period, I commenced to see sex and relationships in a different way: it was much more than a simple physical act and I was getting so attracted by BDSM practice and all the relevant tools. I found myself daydreaming about fetish scenes and saw myself enjoying and playing with those “toys”.

This was definitely the first unconscious sign and the beginning of my path towards this practice.

One of the other good advantages I gained from that experience, was that I had the opportunity to check all the tools I wanted to buy and, if I liked them, I could purchase them online knowing what to expect.

 

BDSM toys list and their function

Are you new to BDSM? Are you planning to prepare your Femdom session and you have no idea about BDSM toys and their use? Then go through my personal kinky list to discover the wonderful world of female domination! Every tool has a scope and can be used to create a specific reaction in yourself and your partner. It can be humiliating, arousing, involving or anything you want. I like to categorize the BDSM toys per scope and typology: I usually prepare my sessions with the most suitable tool depending on what I would like to experience and feel.

 

CHASTITY: cruel

Chastity belt

The chastity belt is one of my favorite and cruel object used for slaves/subs’ orgasm control. I like the ones in plastic, like this one. The wearer accepts to be under your sexual control and you, the Domme, decide when he is allowed to be released. It is very humiliating for the wearers and their desire to gain your attention will increase exponentially. To spice it up a bit, you can humiliate your slave even more by wearing the chastity’s key as a necklace or anklet.

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BEATING: threatening

Whip
Keeping a whip in your hands makes you feel a real femdom! Usually used to punish your slave, it can be also useful to “warm-up” your sub’s skin. This is also very humiliating as your slave is seen as an animal who deserves a punishment. You can try this one.

Cane

Thin and painful, this tool keeps you slave quiet for a while. Caning is one of the most severe punishments, therefore I suggest you to measure your force. The cane can be quite aggressive for the skin and it easily can injure it. I personally prefer the whip, but of course, it depends on the session I planned. I personally use this cane.

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FETISHES: deprivation

Gag

This tool limits oral capabilities. Usually, it consists of a plastic ball or a ring attached to a strap: you insert it into your slave’s mouth and tie it behind. The ball prevents him to do anything with his mouth, on the other hand, the ring allows, for example, oral sex. The gag is very humiliating as your slave cannot express himself properly. I suggest using the ring one.

Mask/Hood

With this humiliating tool, you will depersonalize and objectify your slave as you will deprive part of his senses: taste, smell but mainly the sight. Usually, we identify emotions through the eyes. When your sub wears the mask, you cannot see his/her emotions, therefore you have no empathy and you see him/her as an object. There are complete hoods that include gag and blindfold, try one of them!

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Blindfold

Similar to the mask, but it deprives only the sight of the submissive. The positive outcome for a slave is that this deprivation will emphasize the emotions over perceptions. Probably you already experimented with it for example during the night: you cannot clearly see, but you hear much more than usual. Try this leather blindfold.

Collar & Leash

A humiliating but erotic device worn by your slave. It indicates his/her submissive status and he/she is automatically your ownership. If you feel cruel, just put a leash on it and walk around with your submissive. I advise this kind of collar.

 

SEXUAL STIMULATION: extreme

Strapon

You need to wear it (harness) and use it for pegging, which is a practice where a mistress performs anal sex with her slave. Men often find it humiliating and think that their masculinity is damaged when thinking about this practice. But it is not true. For a man, it can be very arousing as the rubber dildo touches and stimulates the prostate. This is one of my favorite strapons.

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Vibrators

It doesn’t need a big introduction: this is the most common tool and every lady has at least one of them at home. There are thousands of shapes, colors, materials. Collect some models and enjoy using them! This is one of the classic vibrators but always more than welcome!

 

PHYSICAL TORTURE: sadistic

Nipple clamps

They can be very painful as the clamp restricts the blood flow. The longest your slave has them on, the most pain will be when blood starts to flow again! You can combine nipple clamps with a cock ring.

Wartenberg pinwheel

It looks very sadistic but in fact, you can regulate the pressure using it. Its main purpose was to test skin sensitivity, and this is why it is still largely used in BDSM practices. For a deeper impact, I suggest a double pinwheels!

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BONDAGE: in control

Cuffs

There are wrist and ankle cuffs, both restrain your slave movements. Once cuffed, he will be totally under your dominant control. It is humiliating for an alpha person to be cuffed and without control.

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Rope

Before using a bondage rope for BDSM plays, be aware of how to tie them safely. You can find several instructions and watch a bondage tutorial. When you feel ready and secure, release your dominance and turn yourself into a real mistress.

Tape

It is a special tape (doesn’t stick to hair and skin) but has the same function as the 2 below mentioned tools.

 

Last but not least…

Brain

It is the most powerful tool we have. It is free, and everybody has it! Play with your slave’s mind. For instance, use Humiliating and cruel words, psychological tricks and a dominant attitude will inspire your sub’s brain and imagination. This act is as influential as ignoring. I will talk more about BDSM’s psychological impact in one of my posts.

You can find several models of each tool online, you just need to choose the most suitable and order it. I usually purchase my tools and clothes from Amazon or specific websites.

Just do not forget to always respect your partner, BDSM is also about love and taking care of your sub. Therefore, have fun and explore this wonderful world without barriers!

 

And to have a bit of fun…

There are also some fun toys and tools that can be used. You can find here some examples. Have fun!