5 reasons why Femdom Orgasm control is so powerful

A big thank you to my devoted sub John, who wrote this article about femdom orgasm control for me.

The male orgasm. It is the ultimate pleasure for any male…or is it?

In a Femdom relationship, Femdom Orgasm Control is actually the ultimate pleasure.
To a vanilla male the idea seems illogical as the orgasm is the destination that we seek to achieve and our pleasure comes first particularly when pleasuring oneself alone.
However, when in a Femdom relationship, it is the journey and not the destination that is the real pleasure.There may be some stops on the journey where the Mistress allows an orgasm and a brief period of rest but these will not be too frequent as the journey must continue and the Mistress is the tour guide and leader. She will decide when and if any stops are taken.

Here are 5 reasons why Femdom Orgasm Control can be so powerful

(both for the submissive and his Mistress)

1. Ownership

When a Femdom relationship is entered into, the thrill for the submissive is to submit to his MIstress. This can take many forms particularly in the physical sense and may include many painful ordeals that the MIstress may want to inflict on her sub. There can be pleasure in receiving pain for the Mistress and to see Her happy is always a pleasure for the submissive.

However, the strongest form of control is mental and when a MIstress gets inside her sub’s head and knows his strengths and weaknesses then She will begin the process of ownership. At this point a real relationship can form and Her control will become more evident and a submissive will start to reveal his vulnerabilities to Her.

This can be a beautiful process as she takes more and more control and the submissive can enjoy being the beta to her Alpha. When the MIstress feels the time is right She can ensure total subjugation by introducing Femdom Orgasm Control.

2. Power Exchange

There will be a moment when what had been a loving playful relationship with D/s overtones turns into total power exchange (TPE). It does not mean that there is no fun in the relationship but a corner has been turned and there is no way back. A big part of this is Femdom Orgasm Control.

When a submissive gives up the right to sexual release and gives the power over his pleasure to his Mistress then he is entering a new and powerful phase in their relationship. His pleasure is now to be under her control and trusting that She will use him, torment him yet not destroy him. A loving Mistress will not abuse this trust but will always make it known that he is owned by her. To be controlled and manipulated by her will be a positive thing and a submissive will learn to enjoy the fact that he has given up his sexuality to the woman he adores.

3. Desire

The submissive will find that as the control of his sexuality and sexual release has been passed to his Mistress, his desire for her will increase and She will fill his mind even in the times She is not present.

This desire will be at its maximum if his Mistress decides to take a lover and cuckolds him. When he is left alone in the house with only chores to do he will tremble at the thought of his Mistress enjoying her freedom and enjoying her lover. This will be the most difficult part of the Femdom Orgasm Control as he will be under strict orders not to touch himself. He may find that his Mistress will put him into a chastity cage to ensure his compliance with her orders. Whether he is caged or not, he will find his mind in turmoil and full of desire for her.

On her return She may comfort him or tease him depending on her mood and will enjoy his submission to her while he will feel gratitude that She has returned to look after her pet. No matter the circumstances She will always keep his level of desire at a high level and he will be grateful that She is there to control him and his release. If She does allow him the release of an orgasm it will probably be at the end of the day when he can sleep, dream of her and will waken with a fresh desire for her.

Under her control, his desire for her and the need to please her will never leave him. There will be nothing boring about their relationship at this stage as his Mistress will find new and exciting ways to stimulate him and make sure that his desire for her will never lessen.

4. Self control

Even though his Mistress has control of him it is always possible that a submissive will find his desire for her too much for him and that Femdom Orgasm Control leaves him weak and he may not follow her rules.

This is understandable but he must not give in to his weakness. A measure of self control will be necessary and his Mistress will soon figure out any behavioural changes that may be due to him taking his own pleasure. This will not please her and indeed the submissive will feel a sense of guilt if he loses his self control.

If guilty he may face severe punishment in a way that his Mistress, knowing him inside out, will make sure that he is hurt either physically or mentally so that he will not repeat his actions. She may decide that for a few days she will tease him and let him edge until his orgasm is close then shut him down . She may tie his hands and tell him about how She felt with her lover while watching his arousal but not letting him orgasm. She may arouse herself, even orgasm in front of him to let him know his place while forbidding any contact even with her feet.

The submissive must learn to be impotent until his Mistress allows him to be aroused. This level of self control will impress his Mistress and allow the relationship to return to the natural order and the D/s balance will be restored .

5. Love

The main reason why Femdom Orgasm Control is so powerful is because of the love the submissive feels for his Mistress and the love She feels for him.

This may seem strange to some but the bond between the D/s elements is so strong that it takes a deep level of love to make it work. He will do anything for her and knows that She will not ask/order him to do something that could harm him. She is his life and he becomes a major part of hers. Given the natural order of a D/s relationship, he is not the total part of her life but is important to her and her rock in difficult times.

Being a loving Mistress, She will ensure that he is recognised for his loving devotion and will keep his level of desire for her at a high level ensuring that his love as well as desire for her is rewarded from time to time and that he is happy to remain chaste for her until She decides that he deserves release. She will look down at him, under her feet, and gaze lovingly at him as he orgasms for her when She decides that the time is right.

Love and, more importantly, desire are difficult to maintain at a high level in any relationship over time but a loving Mistress will always be capable of maintaining that desire that fuels the love. Femdom Orgasm Control is a powerful tool in maintaining that relationship.

You can read more about this topic on my post about how to practice orgasm control on submissives.