How to be a good submissive [FLR]

How to be a good submissive in a Female Led Relationship? That’s no easy task. Especially if your domme is cruel and sadistic. Being a good one, it is even more difficult.

Of course, it will never be complete torture, where you only experience pain and humiliation without any pleasure. This is absolutely not the purpose of a Female Led Relationship. This relationship is about love, respect, and mutual consent.

Only, it can happen that your domme has some “strange” desires that you should fulfill, or she will punish you for a mistake that you did, or you need to complete some boring and repetitive tasks. That’s part of the game.

I am not saying this to scare or discourage you, but so you are aware of what you will face daily.

 

So, how to be a good submissive?

First of all, you need to understand your role and be aware of all the consequences that this may arise. There are 2 main roles: dominant and submissive. If you agree and you are ready to completely surrender and give control to another person and to let that person take any decision for you, then you already completed the first step to be a good sub.

The second step is to choose or to be chosen by the perfect domme for you. An FLR sub doesn’t want to submit to those women who only want to belittle or humiliate him. And he doesn’t want to have a part-time submission with a professional in exchange for money. He looks for a long-term love relationship, where the domme completely takes care of him with responsibility and safeguarding his mental and physical well-being.

It has to be a pleasant and rewarding relationship. As mentioned several times, for a sub, the domme comes before anyone and anything else. She is THE ONE to be worshiped, served, and obeyed. The one who can ask anything without giving an explanation, and who will punish the sub when a mistake occurs. Everything you do makes you happy.

And indeed, last but not least, you need to find gratification when serving your domme and when obeying to her orders. Will it be difficult for you to fulfill all your duties, every day, 24/7, non-stop? If the answer is no, then you can continue reading this post.

Pros and Cons of being a submissive

Life in a female led relationship is not easy, above all because it is not a part-time submission, but a 100% submission. At any time of the day and the night, you need to be ready for your loved domme. On the other side, this can also be very rewarding and empowering.

Let’s find out more about the pros and cons of being the submissive in an FLR.

Cons

For a sub, it becomes difficult to endure in such a relationship, especially when you are in pain, when you need to be silent or when you are bored. A female led relationship may also be composed of such moments.
It can happen that your beloved domme likes to slap you in the face, spit in your mouth or to kick your balls, you need to take it as it comes without complaining, without even thinking that it is not fair or that you don’t like it. On the contrary, you need to take pleasure from every single action you suffer. Her decisions, you like it or not, are right and will benefit you, too.

That’s part of the rules. You need to learn to resist and endure anything that happens no matter what. You need to like and appreciate that and thank her for the attention and consideration. That’s your job.

Let’s say she tells you to remain in an uncomfortable position for a few minutes. After a while, you move because you can’t hold it anymore. That way, you are taking away part of her control over you, which shouldn’t happen.

As already mentioned, it’s all about her, not you.

Pros

If you are in the right sub’s mindset, you will feel good whatever happens in your relationship. You will be gratified to get attention, to be asked to do things, or just to suffer to your domme whims. Being dominated excites you.

In addition to that, there are other psychological effects that come out and have a positive impact on subs. Read this post for more details about FLR main psychological benefits.

All in all, it is not too difficult to be a good sub. You need to have the motivation, determination, resistance, and endurance to succeed and to satisfy your domme. You can find your own way to reach the goal, just keep in mind that if your domme is pleased, you will be pleased too. Good luck with it!

I suggest you read this post, too. It is about how to become a good submissive.