8+1 regler for kvindeligt ledede forhold [opdateret 2023].

I naturally found myself looking for something different from a vanilla couple. I felt I needed a spicier relationship, something new for me, where I could totally be myself.

And this is what comes out from hundreds of my clips.

If you are reading this article, it means that you are questioning yourself about the existence of Female Led Relationship rules to follow. It also means that you are already living this lifestyle, or you dream to be in one, or it’s just about curiosity.

From my point of view, to have a role in a FLR is a magical experience. Both, Mistress and sub, live deep and strong emotions, transforming their life in a wonderful 24/7 lifestyle and getting its benefits.

In this video, I realize that my dream could become true: I could finally live my own and real FLR. The idea back then, was to find the female led relationship rules to put in place, so that both partners could get the major number of benefits out of it.

Having enjoyed the compelling insights in this short video, I’m convinced you are looking forward to watch the full version!

Explore a wealth of fresh, exclusive content, and engaging material on my website to satiate your curiosity and delve deeper into the Female Led Relationship world.

 

Let’s do a step backward.

In contemporary dynamics of couples, a transformative shift is evident, notably in couples where women assume authoritative roles. The archaic conventions of predefined gender roles are gradually yielding to a paradigm where female empowerment takes center stage.

In these relationships, women navigate among decision-making, career pursuits, and household management with adept control. The power dynamic undergoes a metamorphosis as these couples redefine traditional norms, emphasizing equality and shared responsibilities.

This evolution signifies a departure from historical constraints, heralding a modern era where mutual respect and collaboration form the foundation of relationships, challenging and transcending conventional gender expectations.

When you feel you are in a FLR, no matter if you are the Mistress or the sub, but your need to talk about it and come to a point.

Female Led Relationship rules need to be established in a couple.

But, why should a relationship have rules in the first place?

Of course, we are not talking about socially-considered “classical” relationships. Still, Female Led Relationships (FLR) are not incredibly different from usual ones. In fact, also in so-called “vanilla” couples, you always have one of the two partners who is a bit more dominant than the other.

This happens in some life’s spheres or on all of them. Unfortunately, this is often the other way around: the woman being a bit more submissive and crushed by her male-partner who has a more despotic and dominant personality.

Kun i de seneste år female led relationships emerged and started to gain an incredible momentum.

One example, has been the launch of books and movies like “50 nuancer af grå“. After that, a lot of males started questioning themselves about this kind of lifestyle and the importance to have female led relationship rules with the partner.

 

But, what’s the meaning to be in a FLR and which are the female led relationship rules to be respected by male subs?

Der er naturligvis ikke én løsning, der passer til alle. Alle kvindelige ledede forholdsregler er forskellige fra par til par. Så de skal fastsættes af parret selv.

I have my female led relationship rules, and you have yours.

Kommunikation er afgørende in this process and both partners need to openly agree upon terms, desires, needs, goals.

Desuden er et forhold, der ledes af en kvinde, ofte den ULTIMATE step for a couple that has been experiencing Femdom for a few time.

Session after session, both partners will realize that they need to move on to something more stable, strict and frequent or constant.

Det behøver ikke at være noget mere aggressivt eller dybt, hvis de ikke vil, men helt sikkert noget, hvor kontrol og magtudveksling er der altid mellem parret.

This being said, it can be super easy to find a woman willing to embrace this lifestyle and swim against the tide. Probably also because of this, mange (rigtig mange) mænd er tiltrukket af sådanne kvinder.

It’s probably a “scarcity” effect that is playing a role, together with the fun, mystery, and anxiety of doing something that goes a bit against society and trends.

The følgende regler for kvindelige forhold er blevet skrevet af mig selv efter lange samtaler med min underdanige, som jeg i øjeblikket lever et FLR-forhold med. Formålet er at træne, undervise, advare og informere andre mænd (og kvinder) om, hvad der skal til for at være i et forhold med en kvinde, der er naturligt dominerende.

Hvis du er nysgerrig efter at vide, hvordan det hele startede, kan du læse dette indlæg om, hvordan mit forhold til en kvinde startede.

Lad os begynde.

Female led relationship rules (for the submissive partner)

1) Tror på kvindelig overlegenhed

Among all the female led relationship rules, this is the most important one. If you don’t believe in it, it will be never successful.

Grundlæggende skal du føle og være overbevist om, at kvinder er langt bedre end mænd, og du skal ønsker inderligt deres opmærksomhed, hensyn, tilfredshed og lykke. Above all, the one of your Domme.

To put it differently, you need to ophøre med at eksistere som et individ og begynde at eksistere som en undersåt, der er der for hendes behov, ønsker og fornøjelse.

Du kan Læs mere om dette emne i mit indlæg "Kvindelig overlegenhed i et FLR".

Når det er sagt, hvis du har forstået, at du har brug for/ønsker en kvinde til at dominere dit liv, du har fundet din Domme og startet et forhold med en kvinde som leder, så er du klar til den anden regel.

 

2) She comes first. Before anyone or anything else.

Dette er et alvorligt og meget vigtigt punkt, som dog misforstås af mange substitutter. I en FLR skal man forstå, at der er ingen deltidsansøgning. Du er med i 100% af tiden, om du kan lide det eller ej.

Hvis du indgår i et forhold med kvinder i spidsen, ved du, at det er alt om din kærlighed til din domme. Hun kommer før alle dine behov, impulser og ønsker, og du skal tilfredsstille hendes ønsker og adlyde hendes ordrer. Så enkelt er det. Det lyder svært og ligetil, men det er det, det hele handler om.

A en dybere analyse af denne regel kan findes i dette andet indlæg.

 

3) Stol fuldt ud på hende

Ethvert forhold er baseret på tillid between individuals, and this can be difficult to build or to enforce. Among female led relationship rules, this one is also very important and challenging.

The sub has to unconditionally trust his domme, and he doesn’t have to hesitate about any decision she takes for both.

En god domme ved udmærket, hvad hun gør, og er klar over alle de potentielle konsekvenser, som enhver handling kan medføre. Derfor handler hun respektfuldt, og sub'en behøver ikke at være i tvivl om hendes handlinger.

Hvis du ønsker at Læs mere om tillid i FLR her.

 

4) Selvbeherskelse

Self-control is one of the hardest but most important characteristics that a good sub needs to have. Human being impulses are difficult to control, above all arousal related ones.

When a sub is aroused (and trust me, it’s very likely and easy that he would be), he har brug for at disciplinere sig selv og kontrollere erektioner, impulserne til at slikke, kysse, røre eller endda med hensyn til at kigge.

The domme has to duly train the sub and explain to him the importance of this point. When he succeeds, he will not be a novice anymore. He will be promoted to the next level. A game between discipline and rewards plays a fundamental role here.

Er du interesseret i at vide, hvordan du kan udvikle selvkontrol? Du kan finde nogle tips i dette indlæg.

 

5) Bestemmelse. Modstand. Udholdenhed.

Det er ikke nogen nem opgave at være vikar i en FLR. Du skal være klar til at opfylde enhver anmodning fra din domme. Det er ikke altid lige let, det kan være en udfordring, især når det drejer sig om mentale processer, smerte eller kedsomhed.

Som i alt andet er der fordele og ulemper (læs mere om det i mit indlæg). Men husk på, at hvis din domme er glad og tilfreds, vil du også være tilfreds. Så vær stærk, beslutsom og udholden i dit vidunderlige kvindeledede forhold.

Good actions are rewarded, bad actions are punished. This is it.

If your Mistress decides that you have to stand in an uncomfortable position, locked up in chastity, for hours. Then, you will obey her female led relationship rules, and do it for her pleasure and respect.

6) Overgiv hende fuldstændigt magt og kontrol

Som nævnt findes der ikke noget, der hedder FLR på deltid.

I en FLR er det hende, der laver reglerne, hun kontrollerer dig, og det er hende, der udøver magten over dig. Du skal ikke gøre modstand. Bare stol på hende og overgiv dig helt til hende.

At give hende fuldstændig kontrol og magt kan omfatte, men er ikke begrænset til, din økonomi, dine ønsker, dine basale behov, dine seksuelle behov, din krops udseende, men også livets mål, tid, søvn.

I en ægte autentisk FLR overgiver manden 100% sig og giver op alt til sin elskede, overlegne kvinde. Kun i det tilfælde vil han være ophørt med at være en mand og blive hendes undersåt.

Du kan finde en dybere analyse af magtudveksling i dette indlæg.

 

7) Er det rigtigt eller forkert?

Du skal ikke spørge dig selv, om FLR er rigtigt eller forkert. Tænk blot på dine følelser, når du er fordybet i det. Er du glad og tilfreds? Eller er du bange for, hvad der vil ske som det næste? Føler du dig kedet af dine daglige opgaver?

Hvis du stiller dig selv disse spørgsmål, vil det hjælpe dig med at finde din plads i denne praksis.

Der er ikke noget rigtigt eller forkert i en FLR i sig selv. Læs nogle gode råd i det relaterede indlæg.

 

8) Forudse din Domme

This one, among my female led relationship rules, is the one who helps more a domme.

Hemmeligheden er en god og målrettet træning! Hvis du træner din underofficer godt, vil han være i stand til at forstå dine bevægelser og forudsige dine næste handlinger. Dette vil fjerne nogle tunge gentagelser af ordrer fra dig.

Being in charge of another human being 100% of the time as in an FLR is a hard and very demanding job.

Det er ikke så let, som du tror. Læs mere om dette emne i dette indlæg.

So, observe your domme, memorize her moves, thoughts, words, and learn this lesson that you can apply in next situation.

 

9) Express gratitude

The last among my personal female led relationship rules, is about gratitude. A Mistress doesn’t need you to make her feel better and with a higher self-esteem. A Mistress is already self-confident and knows what she wants, no matter what you say or if you are there with her.

But, for yourself as a submissive, it is important to regularly express gratitude and appreciation to your domme, cause she is the one creating a positive and supportive environment, the one who endorses all decisions and who 100% takes care about you.

You will appreciate her more and more, becoming a better sub and living your dreamy FLR.

 

Konklusion

Til sidst, at være i et forhold ledet af en kvinde handler det hele om kærlighed, en anden slags kærlighed.
The sub needs to love her Domme more than himself. He needs to embrace her life, care and respect her (and her female led relationship rules) so much to walk over his needs, desires and wants.

Det skal understreges, at han ikke behøver at ophøre med at eksistere som menneske, sådan som det er tilfældet for en slave. Ikke desto mindre skal han bestemt ophøre med og opgive meget af det, der definerer ham som mand (nemlig seksuel lyst, ophidselse, stolthed, mandlig holdning).

If you follow these female led relationship rules, you are on the right way and you have what it takes to be in an authentic FLR with a truly dominant woman.