Amateur submissive rules [she is the only one]

In a femdom relationship, the amateur submissive has to well understand each role within the couple:

• who has the power and dominates
• who surrenders and submits

Being in a Female Led Relationship, it is clear that the woman is in control and is in charge of both partners. She controls the relationship.

You can read here a bit more about this kind of relationship.

Submission to females, for many so-called subs, is often driven by a sexual impulse.
In a Female Led Relationship, you need to understand that there is no part-time submission. It is all or none.

 

Amateur submissive vs professional mistress

In an FLR, you cannot be an amateur submissive only when you are driven by your sexual desires (ie. when you are sexually aroused) and be in charge of your life the rest of the time with your domme. It just doesn’t work like that. Better for you to find a professional Mistress (or a dominant girl) with whom you can have wonderful femdom sessions or enter a Switch-couple relationship.

I remember I read once a story of a sub who was exactly looking for that. He was (and still is) a leader and alpha man in normal life, and wanted to submit only in his intimate life. But, why? It is very simple: people who have many responsibilities, have to make difficult decisions and are always in top positions, sometimes need a temporary break but they do not know how to stop their reality. Or they are just able to give up their position for a short time. Many of them found out that professional mistresses do exactly what they are looking for. Therefore they “become” amateur submissive.

A professional mistress takes control of them only during a limited period of time, in exchange for money. She takes them out from this overwhelming world, out of every responsibility. During the session, the mistress will confront leading men with rigorous discipline training. They belittle themselves so much, till the point that it is a relief to receive orders, to have no control and to obey. For them it is not about sex, they are aroused of course, but it is not the main purpose of the practice. Their goal is to find someone who releases them from their daily role for a while. The rest comes afterward, maybe…

 

Amateur submissive vs domme

Being in a female led relationship is dramatically different.
It’s all about love.
She comes first. Dot.
She comes before your desires, your impulses, your willingness, your goals, and this has to be like that for 100% of the time.

You don’t have to worry, a domme loves and respects her “partner”. The only “discrepancy” is that she does it in a different way. Being this a 24/7 relationship, you will be involved non-stop, day and night, in a vortex of intense emotions, submission, and endurance. You need to satisfy every desire, you have to obey every order, and you need to smartly understand and interpret every sign she gives you. You are still a human being but without freedom, you will unconditionally be at your domme service.

It may seem hard and straightforward to digest, but this is what is all about: your total, unconditional and constant love to her, and her only. This doesn’t mean that you purely become an inanimate object, you can take initiatives only if you do that for your domme, and not to yourself.

 

My submissive

I am training my sub for a few years, insisting on the fact that he needs to submit to me as I am the only one for him. Discipline and punishment and fundamental at the initial stage, not because of sadomasochism, but because they make your sub understand the importance of this. Don’t be too extreme, but balance pain and pleasure. Do not scare him, but let him know what and why you act in a certain way. Your submissive will understand that you do it for him too, and he will get a positive psychological outcome from that. After a while, he will naturally submit to you and the relationship will become kind of magic for both.

I am personally intransigent towards the fact that he has to unconditionally submit to me, and my sub knows it very well.
He knows that I can get very angry, cruel and aggressive if I perceive that he would only for an instant put his needs or desires in front of me. If you are a domme, you have to implement and insist on this discipline in your initial training. It is very important because for some it is difficult to apply it all day long. This may include worship, but also some more basic daily tasks like housework, repetitive duties, or anything that needs to be done.

By talking, all men say they are good at submitting their control to a woman. But there is a huge difference between saying and doing. When confronted with suffering, endurance, needs (especially basic ones) and sexual desires, things tend to change.

It becomes very difficult for them to commit in total submission and surrender to her loved Domme, resisting temptation, pain, and humiliation.

That’s the one single rule above all.