14 tips how to be dominant in bed [vanilla vs bdsm]

In this post, we are going to discuss how to be dominant in bed. I could find 14 tips to do that, but of course, there is much more to experience out there. You can even read my other post about how to become an experienced femdom.

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Dominate your man in bed

Men are used to taking control and being the dominating person in relationships, which is neither bad nor good. It’s just the dynamics that sometimes occur in a relationship. Now, if you’re the dominating one, you probably don’t need any more help in that area. Instead, you’ll probably should let him take the reins once in a while.

But if you’re the “submissive” one and you are curious about letting your dominant side out, you’ll need some help. I mean, you can wear leather if you want, but it is not only about appearance. There are some tips and tricks that you can apply to have great success.

14 ways how to be dominant in bed

Let see which are the 14 major actions you can do to be more dominant in bed.

 

Number 1: don’t force it

If your boyfriend is telling you that he’d like you to be dominant but you hesitate on giving it a try, just relax. You don’t need to do it. If you feel like you’re being forced into doing this and you have no actual desire to do it, then don’t. If you’re just scared, well then that’s a different story. Maybe you are just not suitable for this role… and there is absolutely nothing wrong with it.

 

Number 2: it is mental

If this is your first time being dominant, it’s something new. Of course, you’re going to be scared, but you should know that this fear is all in your mind. Being dominating sure is physical, but it’s more mental. You develop confidence when you become more comfortable and relaxed in your position. You need to try, test, experience

Number 3: make sure you create boundaries

Before you go into this, you and your partner must sit down and discuss boundaries. What does he want to be done to him and what he doesn’t. What do you want to do and what you don’t want to do? You two need to be on an equal playing field. Also, you should come up with a safe word.

 

Number 4: get dominant in bed

You can try to be dominating on other aspects of your life. However, the easiest way to dominate a man without making him feel emasculated is in bed. Also, this will probably be the area where he’ll be open-minded about letting you take control. You can find some session ideas in this post.

 

Number 5: become bossy

If you want to be dominating, you’re going to have to be bossy. Don’t ask him how he’s feeling or if he likes it. He’ll tell you your job is not to cater to him, but to cater to your own needs. You need to keep that in mind. It’s all about you.

 

Number 6: how does he want to be dominated

There are a couple of different ways you dominate. A man dawned the discipline. Your job is to find out what method he enjoys. It’ll take a couple of times to figure out what you both prefer, so don’t stress if you try out sadism and it doesn’t work.

Number 7: don’t be afraid to get rough

If you guys already discussed what the boundaries are and have agreed on a safe word, then you’re all good until he screams out the safe word. Don’t be afraid to get rough and dirty. Bite him, lick him, pull his hair, take control, and be exactly what you wanted to be dominant.

 

Number 8: make him beg

He deserves you. When you say you do make him beg for your pussy, it is not mean. No, it’s all a part of playing the dominant one because he’s your submissive. You have complete control, so make him sweat and work for your pussy.

 

Number 9: dress the part

Now you don’t have to do that. It certainly ties the whole situation nicely together. If you wear something tight, sexy, and possibly black. Oh, and don’t forget to wear high-heels. Or, you could wear nothing at all. It’s up to you. But if you dress the part that’ll only turn him on even more.

 

Number 10: have him worship you

If you want to truly dominate him, make him worship you. You are the queen and at this moment he does what you say. It is up to you then, you can actually make him do nonsexual activities like cook your dinner or give you a back massage in return. You reward them however you wish.

Number 11: touch yourself in front of him but don’t allow him to touch you

He only watches you. You can also prohibit him from touching himself. He just has to sit and take it. If he doesn’t do what you tell him, you’ll spank him or tie him up.

 

Number 12: know his fantasies

What’s his biggest fantasy? Does he want to be spanked? Or whipped? And what about being fucked in the ass? What is his ultimate turn-on? You can use these fantasies and fetishes to turn him on. You can also make him do things to you if he wants his fantasies fulfilled. See how this works.

Number 13: tie him up

The ultimate way to lose control and give it into the hands of someone else’s to be tied up. Where is he going to go? What is he going to do? Exactly nothing. He’s literally at your mercy. You can ride him and he won’t be able to touch or grab you. It’ll drive him nuts.

 

Number 14: do this with someone you trust

You want to be able to relax and feel comfortable while doing this, so make sure you’re doing this with someone you trust. Since it’s new and you’re learning the ropes (bondage in general), there are going to be awkward moments that you’ll want to be able to laugh at with your partner. Find here some tips about bondage.

 

Now you know how to dominate a man. as a consequence, the best way to bring out your dominant side is to give it a try. Make sure you try this with someone you trust and can laugh with.

You can read this article about how to be dominant, just to have another point of view.